Learning to Love Ourselves

It's hard to have my picture taken
I really hate to have my picture taken.  I become so self-conscious that it is frightening. My mouth forms into a grimace, my chin protrudes.  I am never satisfied with my image. Something that attracts me to the world of blogging, as it relates to women my age, is seeing "normal" women.  When we look in a magazine or in media, we see images of women 30 years younger who have been chosen for certain attributes.  They have been styled and polished for a photo shoot.  Photos can be altered for perfection.  A far cry from smiling into the camera  or a photo taken by Monsieur.  What we need to do is to accept and love ourselves despite our crooked smiles or extra pounds.


  1. Brava! And you look just lovely as you are!

  2. Brava number 2! You look fab, elegant and composed, if a little uncomfortable having your photo taken. What you need is practice. Loving yourself and having your photo taken. Hard isn't it?

  3. Please do not feel alone in your discomfort. I modeled professionally for 10 years and yet never really felt comfortable in front of the camera. Even today, I still feel stiff and awkward.

    The media does so much to feed our fears and phobias about our bodies. Even supermodels can give you an itemized list of what they don't like about their bodies.

    I believe that the problem lies in the static quality of a photo. In real life, our faces are rarely still. Like a river, they are a majestic flow of emotion and expression, each one flowing into the next. It is impossible to fixate on one small area.

    A photograph, on the other hand, is a frozen moment in time. And most of those frozen moments are not necessarily photogenic. Even a professional photographer has to take hundreds of pictures of a model to get a few usable shots. And because our faces are frozen in time, we can obsess about the slightest perceived flaw, a "flaw" that is not even noticeable in real life.

    So, be kind to yourself. And keep trying.

    By the way...I think you look beautiful!

  4. Oh, my dear! You are absolutely in company with so many of us. Although I still blog, I don't often use photographs of myself, but use drawings instead. It's uncomfortable to be seen, but an important thing to do. So many older women are showing up ... style has no age limit or weight point! I completely agree with Diane's point about frozen moments without the animation of motion!
    Gray is always understated and elegant, as you show us here. Smile big, look the camera in it's eye, and remember that you wouldn't go back in time even if you could. And she's right ... you do look beautiful.

  5. You look lovely! This is something I've struggled with all my life, but especially since beginning blogging, and for a long time resisted posting pictures of myself. It's one of those things that doesn't come naturally, but I've found that practice, practice, practice helps. That and not caring anymore whether the neighbors think I'm some raging narcissist. ;-)

    And what Diane says is true...a photo only captures a two-dimensional moment in time. It doesn't capture how we move or laugh.


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