|On January 4, my dad died.|
Monsieur lost his mother in September. He also had a chance to spend "alone time" with his mother and to experience the joy that she took in the music he played at the care home where she lived.
Although many of us reject the idea of care facilities, both of our parents benefitted from professional care and the opportunities for companionship and enrichment that were available to them. I recently watched the beautiful French movie Amour that deals with the loving end of life relationship between a husband and wife. The film touched my heart because some of my parents' friends are dealing with these issues right now.
My plan for the first five years of retirement is focussed on travel. I understand that I will not always have the health or resources to continue to travel extensively. The suitcase (valise diabolique) and the absences from my husband are becoming less attractive but there is still much of the world to explore.
I am approaching my 62nd birthday in January and I am experiencing a feeling about ageing that I have not felt before. This is a time to face my life and to try to live with inner and outer peace. I don't really know what that means but I'm sure that it will be a challenge. Each year is a gift to us if we continue to get to know ourselves better.
Each January, I look for the snowdrop that is my personal sign of renewal.
|Last January's snowdrop.|