Growing Grey

Two months without hair dye
In two weeks, I will have my 62nd birthday. So far, my seventh decade has brought me many adventures and a few losses. Since I have retired, I have more time available for self-exploration.
During my years as a mother and as an educator, my focus was often on my daughter or my students.
Now is the time to nurture and to educate myself in the ways of positive ageing.

This is a decade of physical, cognitive and often spiritual changes. As we lose our elders and watch those who remain deal with the infirmities of age, we can not avoid contemplating our own mortality. How do we want to spend the next twenty years and how will decisions that we make now affect the last years of our lives?

Since the beginning of December, I have been tracking my food and exercise on My Fitness Pal and am happy to report that my blood pressure is significantly lower after just five weeks. Yesterday, some women from my church discussion group formed a support group to help each other achieve a goal. For the next 40 days, we will work on a buddy system to realize a personal health or lifestyle goal.

Since I have retired, I no longer have a group of teacher colleagues or the shared recess and lunch hour breaks. I am new to church-going but the after church coffee time and my small discussion group have filled that void.  As many senior women spend their last years dealing with feelings of loneliness and isolation, community involvement and volunteer work afford opportunities for connection to  others and to a greater purpose.

As someone who loves to learn, books are very important in my life. I have been purging files and sorting through boxes of books and have just begun to reread Claiming Your Place at the Fire by Richard J. Leider and David A.Shapiro.  The book deals with what the authors call "vital ageing".

This year, after 20 years of hair colour, I have felt an urge to experience my grey hair. I am not sure what it will look like or whether it will have any effect whatsoever on how I feel about myself or how I am perceived by others. Today, I am visiting a downtown stylist who specializes in curly hair to discover a "greyer me"
My grey is out there.
I felt weird coming home with my "new hair" but I think the final outcome will be shiny silver hair.


  1. I'll be curious to see how you progress with letting your hair grey, and I'd love to hear how the curl-savvy stylist works out.
    And very keen to see the Shetland Islands through your eyes. I can't see us finding time to get there before I retire, but I love looking at Kate Davies' blog and feel drawn to that landscape somehow.

    1. The greying is a journey but I don't know where it will lead. I am drawn to Shetland this year and I hope to see more of the knitting. My mum used to have small Shetland sweaters that her granny had sent when she was a girl. The island where my grandpa is from could be about the same size as your island. It's 5 miles long and 2 miles wide. What is Kate Davies' blog called?

    2. Her blog is She's written at least one knitting book about the Shetlands. . .

  2. You may have less grey than you think. My walking partner stopped dying her hair and she has NO GREY! Now she complains that she has spent so much money covering up and there is nothing to cover up!

  3. Your new haircut is very becoming and I believe that grey is really the way to go. I right there with you, greying, and loving it!


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