or to feel comfortable with who we are. Many of the women that we admire seem to have met this challenge. I have not!
Being well in our skin does not depend on our accomplishments, our physical beauty or our economic circumstances. All of these factors can vary throughout our lives but acceptance of ourselves as we are today is a task that many of us find almost impossible. It is easy to blame the family, the education system or the capitalist economy for our malaise. It is much easier to control the daughter who is constantly looking for approval. She disturbs our classrooms the least so as teachers we can focus on the less able or more disruptive students. For all of her life, she will be buying the ONE cream, lipstick or outfit that promises her a moment of perfection….BUT she never achieves it.
The perfect moment that she is seeking is elusive…the moment that a parent says, "you are my best daughter" or that the lover/partner says,"I don't deserve such a woman." She may be a devoted mother, a breadwinner, a clotheshorse, a scholar, triathlete…..the list goes on to infinity but never is it enough! The insecurity and anxiety abate on occasion only to re-emerge at another moment.
What can we do about this feeling of insufficiency? Counselling? Pills? Wine? More purchases? Another partner? Learn a new skill? I really have no answer to that question. I probably have tried all of those solutions and guess what…..No luck! I may be coming a little closer to peace by having joined my local church but the jury is out on that one…..
I'm noticing my punctuation throughout this post..a lot of questions and so forth…..'s. Probably because number of questions and possible answers are as many as there are different women!
I enjoy writing my blog because I know that so many women think about these things every day. When we share our ideas, we realize that we are all both exceptional and unexceptional in a lot of different ways.